You Crave Surrender, But Don’t Trust Anyone to Hold You

There’s a part of you that’s so tired of holding it all together.

You fantasize about being the one who doesn’t have to decide.
Who doesn’t have to lead.
Who doesn’t have to anticipate everyone else’s needs.

You want to surrender.
Not just sexually—but emotionally, spiritually, somatically.

But every time you get close…
You tighten up.
You shut down.
You pull back.

Why?

Because no one’s ever held you the way you hold others.

You’ve Mastered Control—But You’ve Starved Your Softness

You’ve built a reputation on being the strong one.
The provider. The protector. The one who gets sh*t done.

But here’s the paradox:

The more powerful you become out there, the harder it gets to drop into your own vulnerability.

And without that softness?
Surrender feels unsafe.
Receiving feels foreign.
Letting someone else take the lead feels impossible.

You Can’t Surrender to a Body That’s Still in Battle Mode

This isn’t about your partner’s skill or your preferences in bed.

It’s about your nervous system.

If your body doesn’t feel safe—because of past trauma, betrayal, over-responsibility, or neglect—it won’t let go.
Not for love.
Not for orgasms.
Not even for spiritual transformation.

That’s why we do this work somatically.

At Tantrikink®, and through private journeys at Nuna Holistic Retreat Center, we help leaders experience the kind of surrender that’s not performative—but profoundly cellular.

Not kinky as a costume—but sacred as a reclamation.

Somatic Practice: Learn to Be Held

Lie on your back with a pillow beneath your heart.
Let your arms fall open.

Now say aloud, slowly:
“It is safe to let go.”
“I am worthy of being held.”

Feel the resistance.
Feel the fear.
Feel the ache.

And stay.

This is how we retrain the body for surrender—not through force, but through permission.

If You’re Longing to Surrender, Start Here

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