The Healer Who’s Afraid to Be Held

You’ve spent years holding space for others.

Your hands have touched trauma, grief, rage, pleasure.
Your presence has been a sanctuary for your clients, your community, your students.

But behind the scenes?

You’re touch-starved.
You’re exhausted.
You’re holding more than your system can carry.
And the idea of being held yourself…
Feels vulnerable. Terrifying. Maybe even shameful.

Because when you’re the one people lean on—
Who do you become when you soften?

Holding Others Became Your Identity… and Your Armor

As a somatic practitioner, coach, massage therapist, breathworker, or space holder—
you know the importance of regulation, co-regulation, and embodiment.

But somewhere along the way, your own body stopped receiving.

You learned to:

• Prioritize others’ needs before your own
• Process through work, not rest
• Perform competence, even while unraveling
• Avoid the spotlight when you needed support

And now, your body is whispering truths you haven’t had space to feel.

You’re not broken.
You’re just ready to be met.

Somatic Practitioners Need Somatic Healing Too

At Tantrikink® and through private work at Nuna Holistic Retreat Center, we hold the holders—gently, fiercely, without agenda.

We support fellow practitioners through:

• Somatic intimacy journeys for space holders
• Sacred kink experiences that melt performative control
• Bodywork that invites safety, pleasure, and restoration
• Shadow-work rituals to reawaken your deeper aliveness

Here, you don’t need to teach.
You don’t need to fix.
You don’t need to be “on.”

You just need to arrive.

Practice: “Who Holds You?” Inventory

Ask yourself:

• Who do I trust to witness me in my vulnerability?
• When was the last time I received intentional touch?
• What stops me from asking for support?

Then pause.
Feel your breath.
Place one hand on your chest, one on your belly.
Whisper: “I deserve to be held.”

Even if your body trembles when you say it.
Especially then.

You Don’t Have to Be the Strong One Anymore

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